My Family, My Identity, My Happiness!

Homily of the Lenten Compassion Walk 2014

Theme: Pro-Family

Sub-theme: "Same Book, New Chapter"

Venue: Church of St Thomas, Kuantan

Date: 5-6th April, 2014

Participants: 900 youths (17-39 years)

The objective of this year’s Lenten Compassion Walk is to promote traditional family values and to build our homes today on the foundation of God’s love by keeping the 4th Commandment closer to our hearts. During this season of Lent we have gathered all of you here to refresh, energize and motivate you with family values and how to be a responsible child in your home and society at large. Aside from finding new friends, and new families, this event is aimed at making you realize the importance of the family.

We are not going to redefine the family. Everybody knows the definition of the family. A child. A mother. A father. Right?

You have received a lot of input these past two days. You had group sharing sessions and you went for a mission at various BECs, beaches and streets to find out public opinion about family values, how healthy the family life is and how they function. 

Where shall we go from here? It is simple; when you go back to your own homes what you need to do is simply serve your family. Serve your father. Serve your mother … make this a top priority in your life. You need to help your family become stronger and closer to each other ever than before and enjoy the best that life has to offer at home.

Most of the time your parents are worried about you, confused and feeling restlessness. Even right now they may be thinking of you and wondering about you. Are you aware of this!

You are precious gifts from God and you have awesome responsibilities, roles and function in your family.

A child says, “I have an iPhone”. Another one says, “I have an iPad”, the third one says, “I have an iPod”. The father says, “iPay”. We know how much energy time and money our parents spend each day for your studies, for your food, clothes and other necessary things. Are you aware of the sacrifices they make for you to enjoy your life? How are we showing our gratitude to them?

Whenever I hear confessions especially from teenagers and youths, I always ask them what is the 4th Commandment? Very often they don’t remember. Most of you may think, “ Why should I remember? I have already graduated from my 1st Holy Communion and Confirmation class. The commandments are only for children”.

Today, we need to remind ourselves about the 4th commandment that is to honour your father and mother. When you respect and honour your parents, I am sure that someday   when you have children of your own, your kids and the people around you will respect and honour you. If you don’t honour your parents now, you may not receive any respect from your own family or society in the future.

Taize Prayer

Lent is nearing its end. Look at the gospel today on the raising of Lazarus from the tomb. We are already too long in the grave of sin. This means that even with our bad attitudes, God calls us again to be a changed person and to come out from our tomb. God is willing to help us to be faithful to the life to come. 

Lazarus came back to life not by his own power but by the power of God. It is the power of God that enables us to break all the chains, all fears and to give new life. It is time for us to come out of the tomb, as Lazarus came out of his tomb. Our selfishness / self-centeredness, indifferences and certain attitudes make us hard and cold towards others. For instance, do not engage too much with video games, pornography, spending time unnecessarily, loitering, etc.

Taize Prayer

St Paul says in the 2nd reading today, “If anyone does not have the Spirit of Jesus, he/she does not belong to Him.” We have received the Spirit of Jesus through our Baptism. It is basically the attitude of dying to one self…by giving our time, our resources, our energy, and ourselves in the service of our homes and society that we experience love, joy peace and happiness.

Our two days experience of being together with lack of food, lack of sleep or sleeping in inconvenient places have helped us to see how much our parents are doing for us to ensure that we don’t suffer like this – no food, no sleep, no comfort. Today, you need to be rooted in God’s love and God’s care.

Many parents are wounded not physically but emotionally. The wounds may have been caused by our own behaviour and by our own words and deeds which have deeply hurt them. We ourselves cause wounds. Wounding our parents, our siblings, teachers and our loved ones have become a cycle which has to be broken especially in this season of Lent.

We have almost come to the end of the season of Lent. Have you made yourselves available to touch your wounded parents with your words and deeds? When you close your eyes to your wounded parents, you are also closing your hearts to God. In the Gospel we heard that Jesus wept and he was disturbed. This is what happens when we hurt our parents. When we open our eyes and acknowledge their hurts and wounds, then you you can make a difference and a significant change in your lives. So, when you return home do give your parents a hug and tell them that you are sorry for having hurt them knowingly or unknowingly. Show your gesture of Christ’s love and compassion and I am sure it will bring healing to them and blessing to your families.

Don’t blame your parents. Very often society places the blame on parents as being the cause of dysfunctional families. But we are also part of it right?

Here’s a suggestion for all of you. Do at least one nice thing for your parents every day. It could be a word of encouragement or appreciation or do a good deed like giving them a helping hand in the housework, which will turn out to be a great consolation for them. By doing that one nicer thing will help to see your parents in cheerfulness always. This is your sacrifice to your parents and for your families from now on.

Our sub-theme is “Same Book, New Chapter”. We are going back home to our same families. It is our own family. But you are going to make a difference in your families. You are going create a new chapter, new family with freshness of Christ’s love and peace. 'My Family, My Identity, My Happiness'.